It was a wonderful weekend, the twins had their 4th birthday party Saturday, we had good friends over for dinner Saturday evening, Mother's Day was excellent.
It was, dare I say, the perfect weekend. Nothing, even the fact, that I'm inside an office with out windows today and can't properly enjoy the sun is going to spoil my high.
Or so I thought.
One of my girlfriends, Tina, contacted me about another friend of ours,Ray. Back in the day, Tina, Ray and I were all extremely close - there wasn't a thing we didn't do together or know about one another.
One of our favorite things to do was to go out to eat together. Tina and I used to always tease Ray goodnaturedly about his eating habits . None of us ate completely healthily, but we'd laugh at the fact that regardless of what restaurant we went to Ray would always have a cheeseburger.
I knew Ray was dealing with high cholesterol and had been prescribed medication some time ago but now, according to Tina, his cholesterol is off the charts high (340), he has high blood pressure and was just diagnosed with Type II Diabetes and refuses to take his medication.
His reasons: taking medication every day makes him feel old and he doesn't want to be on medication for the rest of his life.
I'm shocked, suprised and at a loss. I can appreciate not wanting to take medication for the rest of ones life but if it will improve the quality of life then take the damn medication!
Tina has presented every argument in the book to Ray - including the fact that he may not be here as long as he'd like if he continues in the manner in which he's doing now.
He doesn't seem to be phased. He just outright refuses.
What to do ?
I'm curious as to what you might do given the situation.
Naturally, its hard to see a friend, whom I care about very much jeopardize his own health. My inclination is to sit him down and let him know how concerned I am. But the reality of it is he is an adult ( a very stubborn one) and he can do as he pleases. Should I just keep my mouth shut knowing I'll get the same outright refusal and childish attitude and watch him slowly destroy himself or try harder and resort to more drastic measures ?