tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4108424773793973906.post7501203273970601539..comments2023-10-24T02:34:37.077-07:00Comments on Because I must blog: An Intervention ?Staceyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01504441297464745715noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4108424773793973906.post-58691586731218291482007-05-15T14:10:00.000-07:002007-05-15T14:10:00.000-07:00Wow, Butrfly & Brillig- thanks for sharing your ve...Wow, Butrfly & Brillig- thanks for sharing your very personal stories. I'm glad your sister sought treatment, Brill, and is doing so well today! Butrfly I hope your brother will change his mind.<BR/>I agree that there is something more behind why he doesn't want to take his medication and definitely hope to explore that with him.<BR/>Thanks Queen , Lene & WM for your advice as well. <BR/><BR/>I'll keep y'all posted!Staceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01504441297464745715noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4108424773793973906.post-37104627075073170272007-05-15T10:19:00.000-07:002007-05-15T10:19:00.000-07:00I take medication everyday - it really isn't a big...I take medication everyday - it really isn't a big deal. I think you should definitely talk with him. <BR/><BR/>I am with Brillig - there is probably something deeper to his not taking the medication.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4108424773793973906.post-42986168037819275402007-05-15T10:13:00.000-07:002007-05-15T10:13:00.000-07:00I agree with Brillig. Usually people react like t...I agree with Brillig. Usually people react like that because they are scared. <BR/>Scared of the medication/treatment, scared of having to change their lifestyle, scared of dying. <BR/>Keep working on him, hopefully he'll come around. <BR/>But ultimately it's his decision to make.Whiskeymariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16680444919622976790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4108424773793973906.post-74820744352189492152007-05-15T08:59:00.000-07:002007-05-15T08:59:00.000-07:00My sister, at the ripe old age of 34, was diagnose...My sister, at the ripe old age of 34, was diagnosed with an aggressive cancer and her options were to seek treatment or die. But even with treatment she would never be the same. She announced that she would rather die than seek treatment, to the shock and horror of her husband, her two little boys, and all of the rest of us.<BR/><BR/>Eventually, she DID seek treatment, but it had to be on her terms. I think she was really scared of turning her life over to the hospital and letting them do whatever. But she put herself in charge of her treatment and is doing really well now (four years later). <BR/><BR/>Another part of my sister's excuses was really that she was terribly depressed and death by cancer would be a way to escape, in her mind. Treatment would only prolong the pain she was feeling in her life.<BR/><BR/>I think people throw out excuses like, "I don't want to take medicine for the rest of my life" but there's a deeper underlying fear or problem that they're not telling you. A good conversation could get to the root of it. People don't like to be preached to. But they DO like to be understood. So maybe if your conversation is more along the lines of, "help me understand" rather than, "do THIS!" you may actually make some progress with him. Good luck. What a hard situation to be in!Brillighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13694582598855276158noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4108424773793973906.post-42570185724735238712007-05-14T16:07:00.000-07:002007-05-14T16:07:00.000-07:00That is a difficult situation. I would probably h...That is a difficult situation. I would probably have to at least give it a try. <BR/><BR/>Maybe go with the angle of how much you would miss him if anything were to happen. Let him know that you care about him and want him healthy.<BR/><BR/>It is certainly worth a try! <BR/><BR/>Good luck!Queen of the Mayhemhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10317309061471274358noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4108424773793973906.post-8531604949316223532007-05-14T13:54:00.000-07:002007-05-14T13:54:00.000-07:00btw, my brother has a degenerative eye disease tha...btw, my brother has a degenerative eye disease that will eventually make him completely blind and he refuses to take classes and stuff (like braille and keyboarding), so maybe that is kind of the same thing. And we? Just let him. Someday, he will become a blind man with no idea how to live and it will be up to his family to make up for it all. Hmmm...Butrfly Gardenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10284837155321500602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4108424773793973906.post-9397800954126210412007-05-14T13:52:00.000-07:002007-05-14T13:52:00.000-07:00That is so tough! I can't imagine even being in t...That is so tough! I can't imagine even being in that situation.<BR/><BR/>When my grandpa found out he had lung cancer a couple years ago, he said he wouldn't get help. He was sure it was going to kill him and didn't want to spend the time in the hospital. Big difference: his cancer WAS incurable and he was SEVENTY.<BR/><BR/>Diabetes is completely treatable (and curable, in some cases, isn't it? I'm not sure!). To be willing to DIE rather than treat your disease seems completely absurd to me and I'm sure other people.<BR/><BR/>I don't think I could ever understand FULLY why someone would do that to themselves, but he obviously has his reasons, right?<BR/><BR/>I think if it were me, I would sit down and tell him "I care about you and want you to be healthy. If you refuse to treat the condition now, you will end up having people treat it for you - in the hospital - until you die." I would just lay it out, you know? And, because I'm cold, I guess, I would say "It's your life and if that's the way you want to live it, I certainly can't stop you, but I don't want to watch you suffer throught it." Like I said, I can be pretty cold. I know it. But I hate watching people suffer. Especially by choice. <BR/><BR/>I hope - if only even for your sake - he reconsiders.Butrfly Gardenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10284837155321500602noreply@blogger.com