Tuesday, June 10, 2008

Eff off Cancer, You weren't invited to this Party

Kay said something funny to me the other day.

It was as I was explaining something I'd written on my blog. "Have you been reading ?"I asked. "No", I just haven't had the time" she said quickly which would have been a perfectly acceptable answer as Kay works full time has two children and just experienced a messy divorce.
But then she added "You know why I don't read your blog ?"


"Because it's not about me," she said, which at that moment if you knew Kay was probably the funniest thing she could have said. Kay is probably the least conceited person you could meet.

"Whatever" I said but secrectly vowed to share some of our escapades or put in more that a casual reference to her as "the bff" in a post

And now I'm writing about her twice in a row in fact, but this isn't really at all what I'd planned on writing.

I didn't want to write that her cancer has recurred and she's most likely going to have to endure high dose chemotherapy and stem cell transplantation- procedures that in addition to possibly making her incredibly weak and ill will take up to a year to recover from.

But I'm hopeful that these treatments will force this evil disease back in to the bowels of hell from which it came.

I've already threatened offered to bring the WM fam and set up shop at her house so that I can be there to hold her hair when she throws up in the middle of the night or make her laugh when she's at the point where she feels she can't take anymore.

The partners at her work are already making arrangements for her to telecommute and have asked that she not make any healthcare decisions based solely on insurance- that if need be they will pay for that which isn't covered.

So between her mom, her sister, her co-workers and I we've got it covered. We're prepared to be her support system.

We refuse to let this univited guest spoil our party.

And to you, my internet friends, I can't tell you how much I appreciate the thoughts ,prayers and well wishes on Kay's (and my) behalf.

You are my support and for that I am eternally grateful.


The Laundress said...


I send you both huge hugs.

Groovy Mom said...

Sounds like Kay has an awesome support network. That is great. Good for you for being there for her, good for her coworkers, and good for her employer and the generous offer of help with medical expenses. It makes me happy to hear about that.

jennifer, playgroups are no place for children said...

You're a GREAT friend, a real friend.

You're lucky to have each other.

Sending healing thoughts to Kay.

Ann(ie) said...

That's just what she needs, girlie. Those friends/coworkers/family surrounding her so tightly and protecting her. You guys are her bubble wrap. I'm looking forward to meeting you on the 21st!!! xoxoxo.

doozie said...

yes, people are very supportive, they are like the 18 hour hold bra's of the world

CDP said...

That's amazing about her employers...I'm glad that she has you and them and what seems like a great family and support system.

Not Afraid To Use It said...

Oh. I am sorry you had to blog that kind of news. I know you guys were so hoping that would not be the case. What a lucky girl she is to have all of you for a support system. And employers like that? Holy good god. That is just amazing. Hugs and love to all of you.

Life As I Know It said...

Sending good thoughts to you and your friend. Stay strong - all of you!

Elisa said...

I am sorry to hear that the cancer is back :-( Hopefully the aggressive treatment will work... the treatment is alsmost as scary as the cancer itself, isn't it?

Keep strong - you are a great friend!

Anonymous said...

God bless. I will pray for Kay. It's wonderful she has a support base to draw from. I have a family member who's going through the whole Cancer thing and it is very tough. He went from have one cancer and beating it to getting a whole different kind of cancer. It sucks but with God, good friends and family. You can get through anything.