Remember when I talked about how my friend got engaged to a man she's known for two months. From what I know, dude seems like he has it together, he seems to really care for her, he's got a good sense of humor and he ain't bad on the eyes. From what I know.
My beef is not so much with him as it is with the need to get married so quickly. To be legally bound to someone she's known for such a short period of time. Someone who has history she has yet to know, with whom she's never hashed out any serious problems, someone who will now be stepparent to her children. Someone with whom she will share her finances. Ya get my point, here?
So I got a call from Kay (the friend in question) a few nights ago asking what I'm doing this weekend.
"Not sure,why what's up?"
" We're having a little engagement party and we'd like you guys to come"
"Sure" I say thinking it would be at her house.
"We're going to Vantage" she said "We're bringing the boat, there will be tons of kids there, R's (her new man)mom will be there, we'll throw steaks on the grill, you in?"
"Sure but we can't get there until Saturday, we've got to pick TomGirl up from Saturday school first and then we can head out"
"Well you need to be there at a certain time"
...For camping ??? It was then that the wheels begin to turn...
"This is a wedding isn't it...you guys are getting married aren't you?"
"I just thought it would be fun for all the kids, R's boys will be there it will be fun, don't go if you don't want to"
The slight testiness only served as further evidence that she was holding something back.
"This isn't an engagement party. It's a wedding isn't it...should I be bringing a dress? You're totally pulling one of those celebrity moves where you invite friends to "dinner" and then suprise it's a wedding"
We went round and round like that for what seemed like forever but she wouldn't budge.
But here's the thing: Dude's mom is in town, his boys are in town and I need to arrive at a certain time.
C'mon, I didn't just fall off the turnip truck.
She's not calling it what it is because she doesn't want me to try and talk her out of it.
On the one hand I'm appreciative that she is including me even though I disagree but on the other hand it's taking everything I have not to shake the fark out of her and say "snap out of it". But since she's an adult, I'm staying mum. I gave my opinion when she told me they'd gotten engaged and I'm leaving it at that.
But for real?
A secret wedding.
Hell, I didn't even get to throw the bachelorette party. In fact that may be what I'm really upset at. She's denying me my "free pass" to get liquored up and receive lap dances from half nekkid, hot bodied men.